Many of us may actually prefer to stay home on New Year’s Eve or spend the night with friends rather than get all dressed up to trudge through snowy, icy weather, only to eat and drink too much! Yet, the fantasy of this night still seems to hold many women captive. The notion of “being alone” on New Year’s Eve makes an otherwise strong, capable, independent woman feel like a 13-year-old wallflower! A woman can be spending New Year’s Eve with friends, family, and children, but without a date, she may say, “I am alone.” If this is your first New Year’s Eve without your spouse or a significant other, then it may be the first time in a long time that you find yourself single on New Year’s Eve and you might find yourself at a loss as to what to do. However, this is a New Year, and a new beginning, and so it is worth celebrating! Here are some ideas to get you thinking about your options.
• A quiet night at home with videos, take-out food and your kids.
• A girl’s night in. Have a couple of friends sleep over--give each other pedicures and facials.
• Going out with girlfriends, celebrating friendship with dinner and a good movie.
• A progressive dinner. Each house makes a different course of the meal and you move with your friends from house to house.
• A house party, where each of your single friends brings another single friend. This is a good way to increase your network of single people.
• A get-together with single Moms and their kids.
• Journal about all the things you learned in the old year and all the things you hope for in the New Year.
• Go away skiing or take a cruise. Look for last minute travel deals on the Internet.
• Check into the local Marriot or Holiday Inn with your kids. The big hotel chains often offer package deals and kids love the big indoor pools.
• Ignore the whole thing and go to bed early after eating a pint of chocolate chip ice cream and watching Sleepless in Seattle.
You have options that you may have not had before. Try something new. It will make you feel adventurous and that will help you feel more confident! Most importantly, take a few moments at the start of this New Year to feel gratitude and hope. Don’t forget to praise yourself for getting through a really tough year!
Remember that you are in charge of your life and what you I choose to do for New Year’s Eve. You can choose to do nothing, which is different than just letting “nothing happen.”
©2009. Donna F. Ferber, LPC, LADC is a licensed psychotherapist in Connecticut. Her newest book, Profileactics: A Guide for the Prevention of Ill-Conceived Personal Ads is available at bookstores everywhere, Amazon.com or at www.profileactics.com. Her first book, From Ex-Wife to Exceptional Life: A Woman’s Journey through Divorce won an Honorable Mention Award by the Independent Publishers Association. To read more about the author and her work, please visit www.donnaferber.com.
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