It happens to nearly everyone: at some point in a long term relationship,
you realize the spark has gone out of your sex life. The love is still there, but if feels more
like a comfortable friendship with an occasional roll in the hay. Sex becomes predictable, and therefore
stale.
If you’re a normal, red-blooded woman, this
will not do. It’s sometimes enough to
trick you into thinking it’s your fault; that your libido isn’t what it used to
be. In most cases, that’s just not
true. Women peak sexually in their
forties; we’re finally willing to love ourselves as we are and to heck with
what anyone else thinks of us. This
attitude is a strong foundation for the best sex you’ve ever had.
These five ways to spice up your sex life
need just one thing: you have to be
willing to take some initiative. I can
guarantee that 97 out of 100 men will be falling at your feet, frothing at the
mouth with eagerness to please you if you try any of these suggestions. Lock your inhibitions in the closet where
they belong, and enjoy experimenting!
1. Toys:
A sure-fire way to get your man revved up is to let him watch you
pleasure yourself with a vibrator. If
you’re on the shy side, you can start just before he’s due home and let him “accidentally”
walk in on you.
2. Games:
Kama Sutra has a beautiful line of edibles and games, or
you could play something straight up like strip poker. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know how to
play poker, as long as you know how to strip.
3. Role playing: Have you been a bad girl lately? Do you want to see how much fun it can
be? Or maybe you want to play the
nervous virgin? Much of the fun in role
playing is in talking about it with your partner in advance; setting the stage,
so to speak.
4. Lingerie: Every man I know is a sucker for sexy
lingerie, even if all he wants to do is rip it off you. Walk into the bedroom in some lingerie and
high heels, and he’ll be putty in your hands.
Nothing is too smutty when it comes to lingerie; consider it dress up
gear, and maybe it’ll even spark more role-playing.
5. Talk dirty: Do you want to have more passion while “in
the act”? Tell him what you like, and
don’t be shy about it. You don’t even
have to use explicit words (although they will act like a shot of adrenaline in
his you-know-what). You can say things
like, “I love it when you lick me there,” or “I love it how you fill me up like
that.”
None of these tips are a replacement for a
deep heart connection, but a funny thing happens when you use them. Although they’re totally physical, they
usually make your man feel more connected to you emotionally. They shake up the routine and he suddenly
sees you in a new light, which is very attractive to him.
For the piece de resistance, try keeping
your eyes open as you kiss and even as you make love. There is a deep heart connection that occurs
when a couple is willing and able to be that intimate. It might take a few tries, and it certainly
takes a willingness to open yourself to your partner and show your
vulnerability. It has the potential to
bring your relationship to incredible heights.
Enjoy the practice!
Johanna Lyman is an
Abundance Coach, Channel for Divine Love and Wisdom, and an Intuitive
Healer. She is the author of the
Messenger Mini Book, Attracting Abundance:
Four Powerful Practices to Align Your Life With Your Life’s
Purpose. She can be reached at Johanna@johannalyman.com or
774-262-4211. www.johannalyman.com
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