A friend recently asked me why I felt it was so important to focus specifically
on spirituality for women. Isn’t the point of spirituality, she asked, to move
to an understanding that transcends distinctions like gender? Does it really
serve the process, she wondered, to imply there is a separate spirituality for
men and for women?
As part of my response, I referred her to a recently published book called Taking
Back God: American Women Rising Up for Religious Equality. The author, Leora
Tanenbaum, explores the role of women within Judaism, Christianity, and Islam.
The author interweaves religious history with interviews of contemporary women
who care deeply about their religions, and derive great knowledge and
sustenance from them, but are unhappy with the restricted roles of women within
them. Many of these interviews are very moving, because these women have really
struggled with this issue.
One of the biggest problems for these women is the restrictions placed on their
access to teachings and official roles. Many of their religions restrict
women’s rights or abilities to read certain scriptures, or to teach or preach.
Since scriptures are often considered the word of God, or a conduit to
enlightenment (in the East), this sends the message that women are ‘further’
from God or enlightenment, and that they don’t have the right to communicate
directly, or to learn, teach, or preach on their own. They have to get
everything secondhand. Contemporary American women don’t accept this in the
office, and are increasingly uncomfortable with it in their houses of worship.
While Taking Back God focuses on the official role of women in Christianity,
Judaism and Islam, things aren’t altogether different in the New Age or
self-help communities, or in many Buddhist or Yoga centers. Although there are
more women spiritual teachers, authors, and religious leaders in America
than elsewhere in the world, they are still vastly outnumbered by men (just
check out the Amazon bestsellers list). This despite the fact that according to
book marketing surveys, women outnumber men as the purchasers of spiritual and
religious books by as much as 4 to 1. In other words, women would appear to be
more interested in spirituality in general, but the majority of books,
teachers, organizations and resources out there are male-dominated. What is the
message sent by this?
So, my answer to my friend, the reason focusing on women’s spirituality is important
to me, even though I am wary of over-identifying with gender issues, is that I
think it really matters how many women religious leaders and spiritual teachers
there are out there. And I think full access to scriptures, and leadership
roles, and teaching positions - within every tradition - is imperative. Women’s
access to spirituality, their relationship with God/Jehovah/Allah/Tao/Nirvana/Brahma (or
whatever you believe in), can’t be secondhand. In a way, changing this is the
most essential form of change that can occur, because our spiritual and
religious beliefs define our organizational view of the world. If we see women
as ‘lower down’ the totem pole, even subconsciously, we are denying ourselves
our full power.
Lisa Erickson is a mom, meditation teacher, and writer. For information
on her classes and information about meditation and women’s spirituality, visit
her blog at Mommy Mystic.